quite personal

the tumblr hath accepted my offerings and on this night revealed to me the existence of demisexuality; i’ve identified myself as such and am feeling incredibly relieved. briefly:  i need a very specific level of trust and emotional connection with someone in order for sex or sexual contact to be enjoyable. i experience aesthetic attraction (visual appreciation of an individual) and sensual attraction (non-sexual contact with an individual), and can enjoy sexual acts with someone i have that level of emotional connection with; i desire sex, but couldn’t imagine myself having sex with a random person, and have been uncomfortable in previous non-romantic situations (and not as a “moral choice”).

but before i write a book here about how this applies to my entire life experience, i’m wondering if any of my perfect followers identify as demisexual, gray-asexual, asexual, or otherwise along that spectrum- i’d love to hear from you!